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GOALIE PARENTS HOME

Sheila Bates - Contributing Parent Consultant

Welcome to our Goalie Parents homepage.  This is like a fireside chat where we will discuss everything from what's bothering you, frustrations you have, how to handle stress and nerves when your son or daughter are in goal, and how to identify mental issues and coping mechanisms with your child. This is a safe place for all parents.

Below is a link to the Goalies Matter Parent Support Group.  Free to join, just answer one question and you will be connected to Goalie Parents from all over the lacrosse community.

 
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

WORK IN PROGRESS!!!!

 

HOW CAN I AVOID STRESS WHILE WATCHING MY KID IN GOAL?

  1. Rest assured that you're not alone.

  2. Be self-aware.

  3. Adjust your measure of success.

  4. Keep things in perspective.

  5. Back off -- literally.

  6. Back off -- emotionally.

  7. Focus on the controllables.

  8. Praise the playing, not the play.

WHAT DO I NEED TO DO WHEN THE OTHER TEAM LOOKS LIKE THEY ARE GOING TO SCORE

It's simple....relax and realize the worst thing that will happen is they score.  If they don't you have nothing to worry about.  Remember this is ONLY  a game and its meant to be fun and a learning experience both winning and losing.  At the end of the game you are still going to love your kid and you will still support them whether they win or lose.  Know that this is lacrosse and there will be many goals scored both for and against.  Some shots will be saved and some shots will be great, and will find their way into the back of the net.  This is a TEAM sport and the team will either win the game or lose the game, but they will do it as a team.  Take a deep breath and relax, your son or daughter will be okay. It's just a game and it's meant to be fun.

DO YOU EVER FEEL ISOLATED FROM THE OTHER PARENTS ON THE TEAM, BECAUSE YOU ARE THE GOALIE'S PARENTS?

First and foremost, take the initiative and organize social gatherings or sign-ups for the group. For example, try hosting a team/parent cookout at your house on a weekend. If your son or daughter plays on a club team where kids come from all over, speak to the coach and see if you can organize a team dinner after the games during a tournament…make the reservations, send the invite, etc. Another idea is to plan a team bonding activity at the team hotel.  Given the upcoming holiday season for example: initiate a gingerbread house decorating contest one evening in the hotel lobby/breakfast area where you break the families into teams and have a hotel staff member or coach judge. Another GREAT idea would be to organize a Pizza Night in the team hotel lobby/dining area and invite all of the families to pitch in for a team dinner if as opposed to going out to restaurant. If all else you could take the initiative purchase coffee and/or hot chocolate boxes and donuts from Dunkin- with all of the fixings. (and MAYBE a bottle of Irish Cream for the adults who wished to indulge :) If you are good at photos or video is another good way to reach out, that is if you are good at editing and then drop the photos or videos into google docs for the families who want it.   If this is a little too “much” for you, you could always start with inviting a couple of kids on the team, whom your son/daughter has befriended, out to dinner after a game, or back to your room to watch movies, and/or order pizza in the lobby. This will allow you a good reason to interact with their moms and dads and hopefully strike up a conversation or two and make a connection.

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HELPFUL RESOURCES

GOALIE PARENT LIFE: INTERVIEW WITH MY MOM

August 25, 2017

Contributing Support Lyndsey Munoz interviewed her mom about what it's like being a parent of a lacrose goalie.

TIPS FOR SPORTS PARENTS WHO ARE PRONE TO STRESS

June 17, 2013

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DEAR OUT-OF-CONTROL PARENT

March 20, 2019

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PARENTS GET PERFORMANCE ANXIETY WATCHING KIDS COMPETE

July 31, 2012

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GOALIE PARENTS DO'S AND DON'TS

February, 6, 2016

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THE THINGS THAT STRESS US OUT

July 12, 2025

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GOALIE LACROSSE RECRUITING TIPS WITH BILL PILAT

October 6, 2025

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TESTIMONIALS

What They’re Saying

My biggest issue of feeling isolated, happened when my daughter was on a team where the other GIRLS treated her like SHE wasn’t really part of the team.  The parents behaved similarly. The other girls even had a player unofficial “group chat” with every girl in it except the goalies.  The parents would make dinner plans with other families while we were sitting there and simply look past us when extending invites to the others. That was when we knew it wasn’t a culture or environment that was healthy for our Goalie and we certainly were not enjoying it. Once we switched clubs, we were much happier!!

Sheila Bates

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