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The toll that perfectionism has taken on students like Katie Meyer, and my son
By Debby Waldman, family, lifestyle and health writer
As a society, we revere and reward perfection. We need to let up on the gas pedal of pressure to perform.
Binghamton Graduate Student Goalie Robert Martin Dies by Suicide
MON APR 4 2022 | MATT DASILVA | COLLEGE
Robert Martin, a graduate student at Binghamton and fifth-year goalie for the the Bearcats’ men’s lacrosse team, died by suicide Friday, the Syracuse Post-Standard reported over the weekend.
How JMU catcher Lauren Bernett's death rocked college softball and pushed it to action on mental health
Jenni Carlson -Oklahoman
Less than 24 hours before her team’s biggest series of the season began, Patty Gasso retreated to a quiet room at her house and clicked open a Zoom link.
She wasn’t talking strategy with assistants or watching film of opponents.
She was serving as a panelist on mental health in athletics.
University of Wisconsin track star Sarah Shulze dies at 21
By Chantal Da Silva - NBC News
Shulze's family said the athlete died by suicide after "balancing athletics, academics and the demands of every day life overwhelmed her in a single, desperate moment.”
‘We’re taught to push through pain’: College athletes on the mental health crisis
By Meghan Holohan - NBC News
In recent months, several college athletes across the U.S. have died by suicide, prompting concerns about a mental health crisis in collegiate sports. Here’s what athletes are saying.
Lyndsey Muñoz: 'We Keep Going'
Lyndsey Munoz - Goalies Matter Co-Founder; George Mason WLax Assistant Coach
Lyndsey has not only been a respectable resource for the goalie community but over the years has become a real friend of mine. Please read her story regarding her mental health journey.
Sarah Fuller’s Journey From Football Kicker to Mental Health Advocate
JUL 25, 2022
After dealing with depression this year, the soccer goalkeeper, who moonlighted as a kicker for Vanderbilt in 2020, has become an advocate for better mental health resources at colleges.
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Athletes and Mental Health: The Hidden Opponent
June 2, 2017
Victoria Garrick is a rising Junior libero for the USC Women’s Indoor Volleyball team. Both freshman and sophomore year, Victoria started and played in every match for the Women of Troy, who won the Pac-12 Championship in 2015. During a difficult freshman year, learning how to be a Division I athlete as well a Dean’s List student, she dealt with situational depression, anxiety, and a binge-eating disorder. By seeing a sports psychologist at USC every week, Victoria was able to learn how to manage her mental health issues, as well as regain normal eating habits. However, she is very concerned about other athletes like her who do not have the confidence to seek help, or learn how to manage their chaotic lives. One of Victoria’s missions in her final two years of college is to help others by sharing her experience.
Toxicity of Sport Culture on Athletes’ Mental Health
Jan 23, 2019
An emotional talk from personal story to professional experience with mental health of athletes. Examining the culture of sport and championship building and providing 3 steps to assist in improving athletes’ mental wellness. Dr. Hillary Cauthen, a clinical sport psychologist and certified mental performance consultant specializes in mental health treatment for athletes, coaches, and parents. Dr. Cauthen has significant experience in the sport environment, as a competitive youth and Division 1 collegiate athlete, her experience has guided her professional development and is the crux of creating a Culture of Care for a Culture of Champions.
Changing the culture of mental health in sports | Rachael Flatt
October 14, 2019
Rachael Flatt is a graduate student at UNC-Chapel Hill pursuing a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology. As a former professional figure skater, Rachael is passionate about combating the stigma associated with mental health, particularly for athletes. Rachael Flatt is a graduate student at UNC-Chapel Hill pursuing a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. As a former professional figure skater, Rachael is passionate about mental health, particularly for athletes.
Michael Phelps Opens Up About his struggles with mental health
May 18, 2020
Decorated Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps sits down with Jeremy Schaap on Outside the Lines to share his journey with depression and discusses the impact of other athletes coming forward with stories of their own struggles with mental health. #OTL
Why Brene Brown says Perfectionism is a 20-ton Shield
October 6, 2013
Are you a perfectionist? Brené Brown, a research professor who has studied shame and vulnerability for more than a decade, says this is one of the three main ways people protect themselves from getting hurt. Watch as Brené explains why perfectionism is really just a form of armor. Plus, find out how this trait is connected to shame and fear.
Utah High School Lacrosse Coach Steps Up for Mental Health
April 23, 2019
BRIGHAM CITY, Utah — Box Elder County Lacrosse coach, Juan Gaytan, and his team are getting national recognition, but it's all for what they're doing to support each other off the field. “You know, I just felt like I could've done something,” Gaytan said. In January 2018, the Box Elder County high school lacrosse team lost their captain to suicide. “Nate Cowsert he was like my best friend. We did everything together,” says Jacob Geddie, who now serves as the team captain. Geddie is the one that found Cowsert. “It just felt like a nightmare. The one thing I hated doing was like informing people,” Geddie said. Then six months later, another member of the team, Jeremy Shipp, took his own life. “It’s like you're reliving a bad dream all over again,” said team mom, Amber Earnest. That's when coach Gaytan decided to take action. “Coach Gaytan is the salt of the earth. They don't come better than him,” Earnest said. He started making home visits, spending one on one time with every member of the team, even if they seemed fine. “He makes sure that he's a part of everyone's life and knows even if they don't know someone loves them that they know he does for a fact,” Geddie said.
Perfectionism holds us back. Here’s why
January 12, 2016
If you can’t do it perfectly, why do it at all? Recovering perfectionist Charly Haversat challenges our obsession with perfection in our personal lives, workplaces and beyond. Can we fight the crippling fear of failure and the unwillingness to compromise that it creates? TED@StateStreet was a TED-curated event celebrating speakers from across the State Street community. Produced in partnership with State Street, the event showcased the power of collaboration in the never-ending challenge to build a better world. About the TED Institute: We know that innovative ideas and fresh approaches to challenging problems can be discovered inside visionary companies around the world. The TED Institute helps surface and share these insights. Every year, TED works with a group of select companies and foundations to identify internal ideators, inventors, connectors, and creators. Drawing on the same rigorous regimen that has prepared speakers for the TED main stage, TED Institute works closely with each partner, overseeing curation and providing intensive one-on-one talk development to sharpen and fine tune ideas.
The Crazy Game
April 12, 2019
Former NHL Goalie Clint Malarchuk opens up about his struggles with mental illness, depression, suicide and recovery in this raw and emotional talk. Malarchuk is most notably known for an on-ice accident while tending the goal for the Buffalo Sabres. Clint’s jugular vein was severed by a skate and he almost died on the ice. Following the accident, Clint lived with severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and depression; he later survived a suicide attempt that finally led him to treatment and recovery. Clint’s book The Crazy Game: How I Survived The Crease And Beyond was just the beginning of his Mental Health Advocacy and charity work. Now, Clint speaks around North America on mental health, PTSD, depression, suicide, and his personal struggles with mental illness and how it affects an individual.
Michael Phelps opens up about athlete mental health | Tokyo Olympics | NBC Sports
August 2, 2021
Michael Phelps discusses the heavy pressure of being an Olympic athlete and how it directly and indirectly affect athletes' mental health. #NBCOlympics #Tokyo2020 #MichaelPhelps........
This is not ALL about being an Olympic athlete but for most athletes who are trying to compete at any level.
SONGs of HOPE
Music that will get you through the tough times.
This is our NEW GOALIES MATTER Anthem. Shinedown songwriter, Brent Smith explained the song... "It's an epiphany. It's a light bulb. It's a reminder that we must learn to live with one another and that should be celebrated, and not just tolerated." "I believe that human beings are inherently good and that we inherently want to take care of each other," he concludes. "I just don't want people to lose their empathy towards each other. If you see someone on their knees, don't walk past them… pick them up."
Three Days Grace
This song really hits home when it comes grieving over a loss of someone, whether it by a natural disaster, or worse through suicide. Think of the words as you listen and remember the ones you lost.
1-800-273-8255 (suicide hotline)
Logic ft. DJ Khalid and Alessia Cara
The artist explained, “Music can be a beneficial outlet for youth across communities who are struggling with their mental health as it provides them with an opportunity to process overwhelming emotions as well as communicate how they’re feeling through safe and creative expression,” Doreen Marshall, Ph.D., vice president of mission engagement at the American Foundation for Suicide. Prevention, told Psych Central." Since the song debuted The song, whose title is the phone number for the U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, resulted in a significant increase in the number of calls to the hotline and an estimated reduction in deaths by suicide after its initial release in 2017, according to a study published in The BMJ.
Books that help with Mental Health
Thinking Inside the Crease
"Thinking Inside the Crease" is a guide for lacrosse goalies to learn how to dominate in the cage psychologically. Playing goalie is 100% physical as well as 100% mental. The competition in high school and college has gotten so stiff that the best goalies must have the mental game to back up their technique. Chris Buck, a coach and sport psychology consultant, has worked with hundreds of goalies from youth to the MLL over the past twenty years, helping them with their technique but realized the best goalies in the world are the ones with the best mental game as well. The strategies inside this book are utilized by the best in the sport and now they are passed down to the next generation of goalies. From MLL to high school, the goalies who have followed Coach Buck's process have gone on to play at the highest level. Go to www.thinkinginsidethecrease.com for more drills and information.
Mindfulness for Student Athletes: A Workbook to Help Teens Reduce Stress and Enhance Performance
Gina M. Biegel and Todd Corbin
f you’re like many other high school or college students, you probably feel pressure to perform at a high level—both in the classroom and on the field. Unfortunately, this pressure can cause lots of stress and anxiety. To make matters worse, you may find it difficult to effectively manage all of these demands on your time, energy, and health. This is where mindfulness can help.
Mindfulness allows you to stay present, focus, and be calm with your thoughts and emotions, no matter how stressful life gets. In Mindfulness for Student Athletes, you’ll find practical and tactical ways to cope with stress and anxiety in the moment, prevent stress in the future, and experience more satisfaction and enjoyment while playing sports. You’ll also find proven-effective tools to naturally enhance your performance.
The mindfulness skills outlined in this workbook will not only help you on the field—but in life as well. You’ll be able to take what you’ve learned and apply it to any situation, from job interviews to scoring a touchdown. What a gift to have!
The Caring Warrior: Awaken Your Power To Lead, Influence, and Inspire
STRENGTH. COURAGE. TRUTH. We live busy and distracted lives. We struggle to maintain our strength and identity in the midst of constant challenge and rapid change. Because life often feels more like a fight than the gift it is, we seek the courage to persevere and find fulfillment. In The Caring Warrior, TJ Jones reminds you that your greatest weapon in this fight is CARING. A Caring Warrior chooses to wake up to his or her true self, chooses to lead others by giving, and chooses to inspire organizations and the world by sharing. It takes courage to fight on the battlefields of life: the internal (self), the tribal (our teams), and the cultural (organizations). TJ shares his own personal struggles and triumph over burnout and negativity. He provides you with weapons and tactics. With practical wisdom, he shows you how to be a positive and effective leader of your teams, your organizations, and the people in your life. TJ guides • leaders seeking greater effectiveness and influence; • emerging and new leaders who need direction to build engaged, heroic, and high-performance teams; • organizations committed to inspiring their people to new heights of fulfillment and achievement; • and YOU―a warrior who wants to fight for your greatest potential. Pick up your sword and gather your troops . . . because there is a Caring Warrior in each of us. And, WE NEED YOU.
4 Simple Steps TO RECOGNIZE DEPRESSION AND PREVENT SUICIDE
Anita Everett, MD, DFAPA,
Readers will find authentic, real-life examples and practical applications for mental health concerns using the proven methods of the Mental Health Foundation's evidence-based program, be nice.
When put into practice, there is no greater way to share your love and support with someone struggling with mental illness.
The be nice. action plan provides a concrete method for society to embrace while approaching an individual experiencing mental health concerns in an appropriate and caring way. After reading this book, you will be empowered with the knowledge to improve lives and help prevent suicide in your daily life and community.
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Goalies Matter Launch
Brad's launch presentation to the 6x6 Goalie camp on July 27, 2021.
Mind, Body and Sport: The psychiatrist perspective
Many changes are taking place in our culture that influence the mental and emotional well-being of today’s student-athletes. The pressure associated with student-athletes’ daily routine can create intense emotional responses. The time, energy and effort put into developing skills in a given sport can result in imbalances in other areas of life. Developmental and environmental influences shape emotional, motor and social aspects of the brain. Eating patterns, impulse control and interpersonal relationships are also affected.
Supporting Children’s Mental Health: Tips for Parents and Educators
Tips for parents and educators to help with their children's mental health.
Building Resiliency: Helping Children Learn to Weather Tough Times
Adversity is a natural part of life. At some point, we all face difficulties, such as family problems, serious illness, a personal crisis, or a painful loss. Being resilient is important to dealing with adversities like these. While most parents hope that their children never face extreme adversity, successfully facing tough situations can actually foster growth and give children the skills to be more resilient in the future.
All or Nothing Thinking
This article describes how to overcome the "All or Nothing" model. How to get over the fact that you are perfectionist.
Signs you might be a Perfectionist
This article identifies the signs that might might make you a perfectionist rather than striving for excellence.
How Your Mental Health Reaps the Benefits of Exercise
New research shows why physical exercise is essential to mental health.
Posted March 22, 2018